During a chit chat with my sister yesterday, she told me about a discussion she stumbled upon on her Facebook page. It was about a lady who had met two guys online, A and B. She and A knew each other for a while before he introduced her to B. Along the line, she and A felt Cupid at work but somehow A became distant and B became available. This inadvertently aroused strong feelings for B.
Her dilemma however lies in the fact that she is about to meet both guys for the first time and she doesn't know who is more real since she found out later that all the while A was professing love to her online, he was in a serious relationship with some other cutie. Thanks to B for this info.
Being a bit indecisive on what to do, she had asked her friends (and strangers as well) online to help her with advices not insults( trust Nigerians. Lol!)
To surmise, she got her insults and advice as well but what really piqued my interest was the type of advice she got from her friends. Majority of them told her that she should ditch the two guys because all they want from her is sex. They advised her that most guys online are not real, and she may never really tell who is lying among the two.
This makes me wonder if online dating is about sex since this is not the first time I've heard such comments.
I have met lots of wonderful people online. And yes, the sex factor usually comes into play. Don't know if it is a new tag line to catch a babe or whatever. But it depends on the user to decipher who is a jackass and a real man. If a man starts talking all dirty on you online, you should know without a red alert that he is nothing to write home about.
But what about those who come out all clean, all mannered and well spoken but have such devious plans in their minds?
While I may assume that a sensible person should be able to read the signs, I can't help but wonder if online dating is really just about sex? Is Cupid not working in this time zone? Can't real love, long time partnership be found here?
Despite the technology advancement in the world, most people still find it hard to believe that online dating could actually be the ish. That truly, one can find a partner here. Most people view online dating as an avenue to get cheap sex. With social networking sites such as Facebook and BBM, sex seems to be just one click away and one can get it for free most times. Thanks to sexting.
While I believe that there is nothing really different between an online and offline relationship apart from the medium, some people may not because of the lies people tell online. Some lie about their age, height, weight, facial beauty, career, education etc. Anonymity is at its peak in online dating and this could endanger a careless user.
These flaws had made some people not to take online dating serious but just another whorehouse. How true is this? Can love not be found online? Is online dating really all about sex?
Let the heat begin!!!